Failed. Failing. Failure. We all have moments in our life when we think we've totally blown it. Sometimes people close to us blow it. It can be hard to get over the shock of not succeeding but its part of life. We can't always succeed because then we would never know how to make things right, or how to learn from our mistakes and short comings. Success does teach us something but our mistakes encourage us to deal with life and its failures as well as keeping us humble.
If you are currently failing I can relate to that. I have been a very bad student, friend and daughter. The only I am currently succeeding at is music. In all honesty, I am still haunted by my previous success and failure. Kind of stupid telling you that you should "deal with it and move on" if I'm stuck, I know. I'm trying, so this is pretty much me encouraging myself. Knowing that I used to be an all - round achiever makes me feel worse, but I'm dealing with it.
Feeling like you are a failure is a place I myself have been too. If this is how you are currently feeling then I would like to tell you that even if you've made a lot of mistakes and feel that you've never succeeded at anything, you are still a precious person and that one day you will succeed at something. Believe it or not, you will look back at some of your mistakes and laugh. I can't guarantee that you will laugh at all your mistakes but you will laugh at some of them.
People are not perfect. We set standards but some of them are unrealistic. Everyone is dealing with their own baggage so its unfair for us to hold someone else accountable for "ruining our lives" ( the infamous teenage expression). Its best to forgive, forget and let that be the end. It's not easy.
Hope you aer encouraged to get a move on in life and forget about the past mistakes. You will make new ones but at least you will learn from them ;)
This post reminds me of a discussion I had with a friend yesterday...we were talking about how as humans, we want to be recognized by others as "our own person"...a capable, successful, and intelligent individual...but yet people that have to much of a good opinion of themselves are NOT FUN to be around--they kind of make you feel subordinate, or overshadowed. Being around people who "never have clouds in their life", and are "tremendously accomplished", and kind of view/treat you as a "pretty, protected, homeschooled(and therefore you have TONS of extra time on your hands, LOTS of free time, and life is really easy), garden flower who goes out and spends her summer doing humble gardening" are not viewed by me as someone I want to be like. I want to be humble too...This post kind of reminded me of a quote:
ReplyDeleteYou are a child of the universe,no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And weather or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Something else that this reminded me of and that's a little more laughable is Dr. Sues's "All the Places You'll Go" @ this link:
http://homepages.ius.edu/HARRISLA/places.htm